Males as spouse abusers: a stereotype?

The other day I saw a female colleague of mine with a black eye and the first thing I thought was that her boyfriend probably hit her. And then I realized how prejudicial I was being. Is there a difference between thinking her boyfriend probably hit her and hearing that a car has been stolen and automatically thinking it was probably a black person? no.jpg Maybe males are the leading cause of female black eyes (?), and maybe black people are the group most common to steal a car (?), but does that make it ok to assume? No, it does not (or does it? Tell us in the comments!).

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Whether you think stereotyping is ok or not, I know that if someone assumed that my dad hit my mom, I would want to hit them. #StupidityProvokesMe What does it mean when people assume that sort of thing, even deep down? That they think negatively of that person. They think that person is the type of person who would hit their significant other. 

These sorts of (negative) stereotypes placed on both sexes (e.g., males are too aggressive, females are too passive) are exactly the types of things that need to end if the sexes are to be truly equal. The movement that is underway is (or should be) about alleviating both genders from the harmful stereotypes that surround them.



  1. As a response to this, there was a video that went viral recently called “The Neighbors from Hell”, which features an abusive girlfriend. I think it’s important to think of these things as issues not of sex, but of violence. Abuse and harassment are things that can affect everyone, and it really doesn’t make a difference whether the perpetrator is a male, female, or whatever. They’re still pretty rude people.

    In terms of stereotypes, I feel like it’s a natural phenomenon in the human race, as we’re so good at spotting patterns. It’s not that they should all be accepted because of this, but we should keep in mind that the processes that instill stereotypes in your conscious are actually subconscious in operation, and that we will need to segregate them as we do with things we say to other people.

    1. 100% about the pattern spotting! 😀 One of the things I will try to do in my career will be to unify psychology around this principle, Festinger was really on his game, but it has not been picked up enough. It is EVERYWHERE (as you point out!).

      Also agreed about the thinking more about violence and the individual than sex or gender. But in the US at least there is a stereotype that males are the perpetrators of this.

      Come follow us on Facebook, there are others who have such opinions and would enjoy talking more (I am much more there than here).


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